Please don't misunderstand me, I am not advocating perfectionism...I believe that perfection is an illusion that is unattainable. I tend to focus on the process of creation, not just on the end result. Evaluate your success not only in terms of what you accomplish but also in terms of how much you enjoy the task. Recognize that there can be value in the process of pursuing a goal. Understand that many positive things can only be learned by making mistakes. When you make a mistake ask, "What can I learn from this experience?" More specifically, think of a recent mistake you have made and list all the things you learned from it.
Healthy striving is quite different from perfectionism. Unhealthy perfectionists base their worth on external expectations.
A Healthy Striver
- Sets high standards, but just beyond reach
- Enjoys process as well as outcome
- Bounces back from failure and disappointment quickly and with energy
- Keeps normal anxiety and fear of failure and disapproval within bounds––uses them to create energy
- Sees mistakes as opportunities for growth and learning
- Reacts positively to helpful criticism
I knew that I wanted to do a figure walking on the shore...something quiet...watercolors are difficult for me as I tend to overwork them and make mud...
at left the background is blocked in with watercolors...right is a closer look at the background...today I did not overwork the background...i forced myself to let the watercolors work without messing with them a lot...i think it worked... for the background...
i am not entirely satisfied with the figure...it was not coming easily, so i mucked with it for a long time...then i decided to set it aside for today and return to it at another time...that is what i learned today...sometimes it is best to walk away...
Some of the above adapted from information by the Counseling Center at the University of Illinois...