Sunday, February 24, 2008

Depression Miracle...


Cre8Tiva is very sad today...my dear one attempted suicide on friday morning...he is in the hospital now...it took me about 50 hours of prayer and pleading (without any sleep) for him to go...finally he was so scared himself, that he asked to go...he looked at me and said, "i am really sick." before this attempt he...talked about committing suicide...did not eat for days and could not sleep...would wake up screaming if he did...had drastic changes in behavior...had recent, severe financial losses...lost interest in his personal appearance...did not shave or bathe for days...plus had all of the signs as listed below...


The website Concerned Counseling says, "They often welcome sleep and experience their waking life as a living nightmare." every waking moment is hellish  for him...i witnessed it...

i could have called 911 to haul him away...but i just did not have the heart to do it...
depression is a very dark place...you can not reach them when they are there...i am a fixer by nature...the creative idea girl...but i cannot fix this...no amount of love, or care, or anything can do it...they must do it themselves...if they can...

but out of this darkness that surrounds the entire family and certainly the house...i witnessed a miracle today...

when i took him to the hospital at 8 am this morning, he would not get out of the car...so i drove to my church...mass started at 8 am this morning...i drove up at 8:30, just hoping that i could find a way to make him get help...as i parked right in front, i looked up and the door opened and a monk walked out and down the stairs...i knew that God had intervened and sent him to help...i asked him to talk to m...he spoke to him about 15 minutes...and convinced him to go to the emergency room...

what is the miracle...this is not a staff member of my church...and i have never seen a priest or brother leave mass in the middle...but one did today, at the very moment i drove up to the church...Divine intervention??? i believe!!!

when i was writing this tonight i looked at the visitors listed in my sidebar and one was The website Concerned Counseling...when i clicked a page about major depression came up...is this another help from above??? what brought them to my website??? today???

These are some of the feelings and things they experience:
  • Can’t stop the pain
  • Can’t think clearly
  • Can’t make decisions
  • Can’t see any way out
  • Can’t sleep, eat or work
  • Can’t get out of depression
  • Can’t make the sadness go away
  • Can’t see a future without pain
  • Can’t see themselves as worthwhile
  • Can’t get someone’s attention
  • Can’t seem to get control
Here are some ways to be helpful to someone who is threatening suicide:
  • Be direct. Talk openly and matter-of-factly about suicide.
  • Be willing to listen. Allow expressions of feelings. Accept the feelings.
  • Be non-judgmental. Don’t debate whether suicide is right or wrong, or feelings are good or bad. Don’t lecture on the value of life.
  • Get involved. Become available. Show interest and support.
  • Don’t dare him or her to do it.
  • Don’t act shocked. This will put distance between you.
  • Don’t be sworn to secrecy. Seek support.
  • Offer hope that alternatives are available but do not offer glib reassurance.
  • Take action. Remove means, such as guns or stockpiled pills.
  • Get help from persons or agencies specializing in crisis intervention and suicide prevention.
if you have time, please pray for my family...

38 comments:

thailandchani said...

Been there. I can understand how he feels. I hope he will be able to get some help. For me, I had to completely restructure my life, make a lot of major changes but it was well worth it!

Angela said...

I will definately keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I am in a similar situation. Your letting everyone know this helps me. I don't know about others but it helps me. :)
*HUGS*
Angela

see you there! said...

Holding you and yours in my thoughts. Sending healing energy for you as you go through this.

Darla

Doe Grozs Art said...

You and your son are in my prayers. I send you light to see clearly along with strength and courage to walk this path. I send you hope and faith of which I know you already have.
I pray he will come to see the beauty and joy of life.
And I believe for sure an angel in the form of a monk came to intercede. He is blessed to have you in his life.
Always in my prayers.
Doreen

qualcosa di bello said...

**if i have time**????...girl, there is nothing in the world more important! consider it done...during morning & evening prayers' intercessions, especially now~~ God is working here! lots & lots of love to both of you...xxoo

AnnieElf said...

Rebecca, you and your dear one continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. You will stay there until the tide turns and light enters your lives again. Every thought is a prayers. Consider Deb and I linked at the heart in our prayer efforts on your behalf. Love, Annie

NeereAnDear said...

Not only is he in my prayers but you are too... I can not imagine the helpless feeling of not being able to do something for him



HUGS BLESSINGS AND LOVE

JO

Mary Timme said...

I am and will continue. Our church begins next week as one of our two weeks a year when we pray and fast. I'm going to for one meal a day and you are going into my prayer list for that.

Answers are coming thick and fast for you. We serve an awesome God.

judie said...

Absolute prayers and healing vibes coming your way. And HUGE hugs! I'm asking my friend who is a Reverend to place your loved one in her prayer circle of friends. It would help them if they had a name...just a first name. You could email me.

Girl, I LOVE your new header!

Lisa S. Oceandreamer said...

My first reaction of course is heart break. For him and for you. I will continue to keep the healing thoughts, vibes, my type of 'prayer' and all good intentions to the Universe. You are surrounded with the collective voices Rebecca, you cannot touch them or see them or even hear them....but I know you can feel it.
Hugs and hope,
Lisa
XOXOXO

tinker said...

Such synchronicities always seem to me to be sent by the Divine...and who knows, You may even be a part of the Divine plan in helping someone else through your open sharing of this painful part of your journey. Amazing how these things can work out sometimes, isn't it? Sending many thoughts and prayers towards you and your loved one, Rebecca, for healing and peace of mind - and sending many, many ((hugs)), too.
XOXO

MissKoolAid said...

I followed Judie's link to your blog. I'm putting your family in my Bank of Good Thoughts.

Sophie

miss*R said...

I came by way of Judie and I will light a candle for you both xo

Scarlet said...

Wow, I had no idea how severe it was and I apologize if I was a bit lax in the past. I am praying for all of you now. :)

lila said...

Also came from Judie's, You are in my prayers.
Hugs,
Lila

Vallen said...

There is absolutely a hand that guides, to me there is no doubt about it. I wish for you a respite in which to gather your spirits and for continued strength for the journey to come.

zorana said...

I'm so sorry Rebecca. It is very sad and difficult. I'm sending good energy to you and your partner. Hoping that there will be more miracles in your lives. xo

Wyanne said...

So sorry to hear about this. Here is a big hug. Love, Wyanne

Carmen said...

You and your family will be in my thoughts.

smilnsigh said...

Having just read a comment by you, over in Corey's blog... I came over here.

Oh my Dear, you are having sad times, also. -sigh- I wish you well. I wish you strength and all those things you need, to cope, through these trying times.

Mari-Nanci

Leslie said...

Oh Rebecca! You and your family are in my prayers and will remain there. Wishing for you strength, hope and more divine intervention.

Pamela said...

Been there done that with a family member. One solution to the hospital, our associate pastor came with us and sat in the back of the car with our loved one and another family member for support and also to help make sure family member didn't jump out of the car. The Crises Services wouldn't come. They wanted us to call the police which meant our loved one would have been hand cuffed and leg ironed and transported in the cruiser. Our loved one was able to ride quietly and unevently to the hospital with familiar people in the family car instead.

Abby Creek Art said...

Rebecca, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Remember that there is always hope and that it is sometimes the darkest before the light comes. Sending love and healing...

With Alyice Edrich said...

I am so sorry to hear this and pray, Please God, to give your "precious one" comfort and peace of mind. Depression is indeed a lonely, isolating place where even the good doesn't feel so good. Hang in there.

Carolyn said...

I am sending you my prayers and wishes to you all , in your darkest moments , and that the light shines on you to help you through it .

Jeanette Janson said...

Wow, I am just speechless, I can't believe everything you are going through. I sincerely say...I am so sorry for your pain and hardship. I will certainly say a prayer that God gives you strength and guidance to get through this.
xoxo Jeanette

paris parfait said...

Darling Rebecca, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. It certainly sounds as though angels are appearing in your path to help, just as you need it. I pray your loved one gets the help he needs. xoxox

ShabbyInTheCity said...

Oh Rebecca! so sorry and YES I'll pray for this boy. Maybe by now things have changed for the better already.
I love the new style around here :)
Very cheerful!

Gemma said...

A candle is burning for you both right now in Arizona.

suze said...

I am so sorry to hear this. I hate depression (I have bouts with it myself) it is so misunderstood.You and your dear one are in my thoughts and prayers.
suze

Leanne said...

love and light to you both.

Leanne x

Karen Cole said...

My dear Rebecca,

So sorry I have not been here for a while and to come on a day when you are so sad.

Please know that I am thinking about you.

xo Karen

iHanna said...

I think it's difficult to read about it, I can't imagine being in it and experiencing it. I think you must be very strong and it's so great that you have the courage and strength to share.

thank you and I hope the situation will feel better for you and him soon.

Joy Logan said...

I came by again from Linda's link and am so sorry. I have heard of "miracles in modern days" happening,it was amazing those things happened to you at that time. Depression runs in my family and it is horrible to cope with,meds don't work just "one reason" to go on is sometimes all that works. You will be in my thoughts.

Garden Painter Art said...

I will be thinking about you and praying for you and your family.

It's very hard for me to read about this, as I am so very like what I am reading about. I somehow manage to keep myself half way going, but there are times when I could fall so deeply into hellish depression, that I can't see a way out.

I know some of what you are going through and I will continue to pray for you.

Kim
Garden Painter Art

The Artful Eye said...

Dear Rebecca,
I'm holding you and your family close to my heart and praying that you find comfort and peace in the days ahead.

Miracles, happen everyday!

Bless you my friend.

Warm thoughts, Andrea

Melissa @ The Inspired Room said...

Oh, dear, I am so behind on my blog reading I missed this terribly frightening news. I'll keep praying for your loved one and your whole family to be strong.

{{HUGS}},

Melissa

corina said...

difficult time for you, I crossed that bridge...

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